It’s been a fantastic couple of days for #EventWell18. A buzzing Square Meal Venues & Events Live Show with 2 amazing master classes and a great panel session delivered over the past 48 hours, where I’ve also had to juggle and keep up to speed with all the buzz and activity on social media, do my other job of taking care of EWL Club, and not forget about the little human being I created 2 and 1/2 years ago, my daughter.
One of the hardest things for us to do as event professionals at times is to set in place clear boundaries for ourselves when it comes to our wellbeing. Establishing boundaries is key to ensuring that the relationships that exist in our lives are mutually respectful, supportive and caring. Boundaries are also a measure of self-esteem.
So why is establishing boundaries so hard for eventprofs? Well quite simply we’re yes people, we make things happen, it’s our job to create the possible out of the impossible, make the magic happen, we’re event makers after all.
Unfortunately it’s a mindset that can too often leave us vulnerable to being taken for granted or even damaged by others. Therefore learning how to establish healthy boundaries is an important and crucial step to make on your self-care path to well-being.
My boundary the past 48 hours (which is why I didn’t post yesterday evening and why this post is also a short one) is that if I have had to spend time doing more than planned to be able to do what needed to be done for the #EventWell18 campaign this week, then I’m jolly well going to be taking that time back for myself and my family unit so we can be together.
The common challenge for all eventprofs is very often when working on an event a task can take much longer than expected, may have been underestimated, we are reliant on a lot of stakeholders, or an adhoc must do rears it’s ugly head. We work in a deadline oriented industry and when the event is happening or looming then sometimes there are some things that simply cannot wait and need to be done right now.
And that is absolutely fine, but what I promise myself is that when that does happen I then need to compromise on something else. Is it really that urgent? What can actually really wait until tomorrow? This enables me to take that time back to check in on me and check in on those around me.
Sometimes I will throw myself into my work, and it’s easy to do that when you love and are passionate about your career. But there are times that I really want to just kick back a little and do the bare minimum. It’s almost as if it is now set in my subconscious that time for family and myself has to come first.
It’s also an incredibly empowering feeling, the ability to say “you know what, not today, that can actually wait”. Try it and see how it feels – say “NO” a few times. I promise you the world almost certainly will not come to a screeching halt and will definitely continue to turn.
Self-care tip – “When you say yes to others make sure you are not saying no to yourself”
Back tomorrow with your final instalment #eventprofs